Pain of Separation

This time, let's look at the pain of separation, which is the subject of many songs, poems, and books. Your partner, whom you loved very much, made sacrifices for and said you couldn't live without, is no longer by your side. At the point when you can't sleep all night and wonder how you will cope with this pain, I cannot give you five items to help you get through this mourning process that you search on Google, talk to your friends, scroll through reels on Instagram and search for answers to yourself, and miraculously help you get through this process.

You can start by accepting the fact that this process is complicated, that you are grieving, and that you are floating from emotion to emotion. You may think you are journeying by seeing and hearing your emotions without suppressing them. This road may be long; sometimes, you may want to stop and rest, and when you do not want to be alone, you can ask for help from those around you. One day, you will come to the end of that road; the important thing is to take care of yourself while you are on the road. Following that path without pushing, getting help when necessary, paying attention to the innovations around you, sometimes without caring about the path, and moving forward by discovering whatever is good for you can help you find your power.

According to one study (Verhallen et al., 2019), the psychological effects of separation can especially include depression-like symptoms. Severe stress, feelings of betrayal and rejection, depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts about the ex-partner, and sleep disorders can be among the symptoms observed after separation. Research says that women tend to experience higher separation stress than men. It also indicates that differences in depression-like symptoms between genders are associated with gender-specific stress responses and tendencies to ruminate more during stressful periods. As you can see, there are many factors in your journey.

If you ask when this path ends, some studies say that it starts to decrease in three months and ends in six months, and although some claim that it will continue for as long as the duration of your relationship, the process is relative. Just as a person is unique, the

mourning he feels, the path he takes, and the pain he experiences are all special and unique. Multiple factors affect this process. Your attachment style, your separation process, your accusations about your partner or yourself, and your coping methods are some of these. Getting professional support will be one of the best investments you will make in yourself when you say, "I am having a hard time coping; it is too exhausting for me to progress on this journey."

In this process, asking yourself what you need and listening to your needs is essential. If you want to cry, cry; if you want to rest, rest; if you're going to move, take initiative towards it and meet your own needs, hug yourself, and perhaps give yourself that compassion that you usually give out will support you in this process. If you are still wondering how this pain will go away, our Founder, Dr. Selenga Gürmen, let's hear, can a magic wand relieve this pain?